heh, please *never* appologise for sharing your opinions in my journal! I *like* when people say/write things that make me think, and this definetly did!
I have come to the decision it's not so much *marriage* I take seriously, as it is, well, giving your word about something. Like, the thing that *makes* me take marriage seriously is the fact that it is basically a promise you give to someone. *that* is the part that matters to me, not what the government says about it. Oh, I think my state is insanely stupid(yep, I'm in California. /o\) for the crap it has pulled, and I understand your point about how stupid laws based around marriage are, but the part that matters to me is that promise.
I take promises, and well, the old fashioned 'word of honor' type stuff seriously; things like 'if a job's worth doing, it's worth doing right', 'if you're doing a job, it must be worth doing, so put as much effort into it as if you were getting rich off it', 'you're only as good as your word', 'treat people the way you want to be treated, in small things as much as in big ones', and 'never, EVER hurt, or stand by and let someone else hurt, a defenseless creature, a child, or anyone else.' are the backbone of my sense of 'self'.
Even though I work in fast food, from cleaning to customer service, I'm doing it the best I can, and even if no one *else* sees I'm doing my best, *I* know I am, and that's what matters! I stand up for my co-workers, and defend them from small-minded, prejudiced 'guests', return dogs who keep getting out of yards on busy streets, over and over until the fence is fixed, simply because my dog or not, it doesn't deserve to get hit just because it's owner is too lazy to fix the fence, and so on...
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I have come to the decision it's not so much *marriage* I take seriously, as it is, well, giving your word about something. Like, the thing that *makes* me take marriage seriously is the fact that it is basically a promise you give to someone. *that* is the part that matters to me, not what the government says about it.
Oh, I think my state is insanely stupid(yep, I'm in California. /o\) for the crap it has pulled, and I understand your point about how stupid laws based around marriage are, but the part that matters to me is that promise.
I take promises, and well, the old fashioned 'word of honor' type stuff seriously; things like 'if a job's worth doing, it's worth doing right', 'if you're doing a job, it must be worth doing, so put as much effort into it as if you were getting rich off it', 'you're only as good as your word', 'treat people the way you want to be treated, in small things as much as in big ones', and 'never, EVER hurt, or stand by and let someone else hurt, a defenseless creature, a child, or anyone else.' are the backbone of my sense of 'self'.
Even though I work in fast food, from cleaning to customer service, I'm doing it the best I can, and even if no one *else* sees I'm doing my best, *I* know I am, and that's what matters! I stand up for my co-workers, and defend them from small-minded, prejudiced 'guests', return dogs who keep getting out of yards on busy streets, over and over until the fence is fixed, simply because my dog or not, it doesn't deserve to get hit just because it's owner is too lazy to fix the fence, and so on...